A lot of people know how to begin things… but do they know how to end them?

 

When we start a career or a new relationship, we’re filled with enthusiasm and excitement.

.There’s hope.

There’s energy.

There’s possibility.

 

But how often do we consider the ending?

 

Where we draw the line if something becomes unhealthy…

 

Or how we recognize when something simply isn’t our path anymore.

 

And what about the things we longed for… that just didn’t work out?

 

The end of a relationship where we truly cared about someone.

 

A promotion we deeply wanted but didn’t get.

 

A friendship we loved that changed—through distance, life, or loss.

 

Endings are inevitable.

 

And yet, most of us don’t think about them… until we’re in the middle of one.

 

And I think if we did, we would actually enjoy our lives a lot more.

 

I know for me, my divorce was one of the hardest things I’ve ever gone through.

 

Watching my family separate… and realizing there was nothing I could do to stop it… that was heavy.

 

It was during that time that I was really introduced to the idea of completing a relationship.

 

Not just ending it—but completing it in a healthy way.

 

There were a few things that helped me, and I want to share them with you:

 

1. Every relationship has an ending.

Even if we marry the love of our lives, one day we will have to say goodbye.

That realization helped me understand that what I was going through wasn’t abnormal—it was human.

 

2. I had a choice in how I handled it.

I could go down a destructive path, or I could choose to grow.

I chose to look for what I could learn—to practice gratitude, forgiveness, and to stay open to new beginnings.

 

3. I had to learn to let go.

If I couldn’t release something I had been given—something I got to experience—how could I expect life (or God) to give me more?

Holding on tightly closes the door to what’s next.

 

4. How I ended this relationship would shape my next one.

If I walked away bitter, I’d carry that bitterness forward.

But if I could end with some level of peace, I’d be starting fresh.

 

5. I began to trust that there was purpose in the ending.

At the time, I couldn’t see it.

But in the years after, I was given something I had never truly allowed myself before—time alone.

Time to heal. Time to understand myself. Time to grow stronger and more at peace in my own company.

It wasn’t easy, but there were real gifts in it.

 

6. Gratitude changed everything.

When I could honestly say, “Thank you for the experience… this is what I learned,”

something shifted. It felt lighter. Clearer.

Like I knew how to move forward.

 

So maybe you’ve been through something really hard.

 

And if you have, I’m truly sorry.

 

But endings are a part of life. They don’t always mean something went wrong… and they don’t mean there’s no hope.

 

Endings—when we allow ourselves to grieve them and still choose to move forward—are often the beginning of something new.

 

And I truly believe this:

 

If we handle our endings with love, respect, and dignity… instead of resentment or avoidance… we position ourselves for something better.

 

So, if someone left, I know that hurts.

 

But it doesn’t mean you weren’t enough.

 

It may simply mean that chapter of your life has come to a close.

 

Carry on.

 

There may be something better that needs the space to enter your life.

 

If this resonated with you, feel free to reply.

 

And if you need help walking through something like this, reach out.

 

Much love,

Bert