An Excellent Life
Where Have Our Feelings Gone?
Where Have Our Feelings Gone? When was the last time you cried? I curiously asked my client. He paused, he couldn’t remember the last time. I can’t really help someone unless they’re able to open up. But how does someone open up if they can’t feel their feelings? Feelings are mysterious. They’re messy. Most people…
Read MoreKeep the Lights On
Keep the Lights On This is my dad. He was a cool guy—and I’m going to brag on him for a minute. He was a jazz musician, entrepreneur, handyman, convenience store owner, military man, and so much more. He had the deepest voice. And he was strong like you wouldn’t believe.…
Read MoreFROM PAIN TO FAITH: WHY I STILL WALKED INTO A CHURCH
FROM PAIN TO FAITH: WHY I STILL WALKED INTO A CHURCH The Beginning It must have been 100 degrees in the tent we were in for church service in Barbados. I was about 4 years old, and my grandmother was an avid churchgoer. I didn’t understand church, but it was one of…
Read MoreWhat I Told My Kids About Sex, Drinking and Discipline
What I Told My Kids About Sex, Drinking and Dicipline Hey, stop cursing.” “Wait to be physical with the opposite sex.” “Stay away from alcohol and drugs.” These were things I shared constantly with my children—and still do. I didn’t just tell them what to do; I explained why it mattered…
Read MoreFinding Peace When We Are at War
Finding Peace When We Are at War I woke up this morning to the news that we’ve entered a war with Iran, and my mind started to spiral. I’m sure many others did too, which is why I wanted to address it here. So what can we do? What would I suggest to a client…
Read MoreParty Girl, Bad Boy, Nice guy. vs Real Men and Women
Party Girl, Bad Boy, Nice Guy vs Real Men and Women Do you ever wonder how people who are grown up seem to make childish or irresponsible choices? This can happen to anyone including ourselves. Look at the Epstein files for instance, how did grown adults behave this way? One of the ways…
Read MoreThe Funbuster: A Valentine’s Day Story ❤️
The Funbuster: A Valentine’s Day Story ❤️ Here’s a real love story for Valentine’s Day. They were having marital problems. He wanted to save money. She wanted to spend it. Someone recommended me to them, and I think they both trusted me because they could tell I didn’t have an agenda.…
Read MoreThe Epstein Files: A Father’s Reflection
The Epstein Files: A Father’s Reflection This week, the release of the Epstein files led to a conversation I never expected to have—one with my son. As he asked questions, I felt a quiet sadness rise in me. How is it that I even need to explain to this young man—who means so much to…
Read MoreWhy I Share (Even When It’s Risky)
Why I Share (Even When It’s Risky) “Are you okay?” A friend asked after reading my blog a few weeks ago about people pleasing and the cost of growing up that way. “Yes. Why?” “I’m worried. You’re sharing a lot. Here’s what I shared with him I learned about being a “nice guy” or people…
Read MoreBe Grateful You Didn’t Get Away With It
Be Grateful You Didn’t Get Away With It Did you ever wonder why bad things happen to good people, and how others seem to get away with everything? What if I told you, no one gets away with anything, and it may be a blessing to get caught. I once got caught stealing a cassette…
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