An Excellent Life
He Missed His Chance to be His Son’s Hero
He Missed His Chance to be His Son’s Hero He came to see me because he had gotten into trouble, and his parents had heard that I coach and connect well with young people. Unfortunately, I can’t help everyone. It was hard to reach him. He wouldn’t open his heart. …
Read MoreThe Trap of Over giving in Relationships
The Trap of Over Giving in Relationships When I was younger, I thought no woman would ever leave me. I mean… why would they? I’d grocery shop, cook, clean, provide—be the perfect boyfriend, the perfect husband. Sounds great, right? Wrong. It’s great… if you’re the other person. But that’s…
Read MoreWhat Divorce Taught Me About Letting Go
What Divorce Taught Me About Letting Go A lot of people know how to begin things… but do they know how to end them? When we start a career or a new relationship, we’re filled with enthusiasm and excitement. .There’s hope. There’s energy. There’s possibility. But how often do we consider the ending?…
Read MoreWhat Love Makes Possible
What Love Makes Possible Last week I wrote about two women I know. I didn’t choose them because they’re “nice.” I chose them because they are two of the finest women I know. The first—you’ll almost never hear her talk about herself. She’s deeply concerned for others… in a way I…
Read MoreThe Courage To Feel
The Courage To Feel She was 11 years old. It was summer, and she woke up late. She came downstairs looking for her friends, but her mom told her they had already come by. She didn’t want to wake her. So, she went out back and sat on an old sofa in…
Read MoreThe Affair That Wasn’t About Love
The Affair That Wasn’t About Love He was one of the wealthiest clients I ever worked with… and I found out he was having an affair. His health was a mess. Somewhere along the way, in building his success, he picked up a smoking habit… and a drinking habit to go with it.…
Read MoreWhy Modern Relationships Feel Broken (And Why They’re Not)
Why Modern Relationships Feel Broken (And Why They’re Not) I’m noticing something about relationships today. Men and women—and even boys and girls—are interacting differently than they used to. Some people call it hookup culture. Others say a growing number of people aren’t dating at all. So what’s going on? I…
Read MoreIt Wasn’t Love…It Was Familiar
It Wasn’t Love….It Was Familiar “I miss John, I know there were problems… but we had some really good times.” That’s what my client told me a few months after ending a relationship. When we first worked together, she needed support walking away from a man who was truly abusing her. She ended it. Deleted…
Read MoreWhere Have Our Feelings Gone?
Where Have Our Feelings Gone? When was the last time you cried? I curiously asked my client. He paused, he couldn’t remember the last time. I can’t really help someone unless they’re able to open up. But how does someone open up if they can’t feel their feelings? Feelings are mysterious. They’re messy. Most people…
Read MoreKeep the Lights On
Keep the Lights On This is my dad. He was a cool guy—and I’m going to brag on him for a minute. He was a jazz musician, entrepreneur, handyman, convenience store owner, military man, and so much more. He had the deepest voice. And he was strong like you wouldn’t believe.…
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