An Excellent Life
Why trust matters in hard times
“Daddy, no-I can’t look, it’s just too awlful!” “Daddy, no—I can’t look. I can’t look, Daddy,” my daughter sobbed. “Maya, you have to look,” I said. She was only four or five at the time. We were on top of a bunk bed watching a mini DVD player (no streaming back…
Read MoreWhere are the helpers? Phillies “Karen” and Charlie Kirt
Finding “the helpers” Phillies “Karen” and Charlie Kurt examples Finding the Helpers in a World That Feels Broken Why I Stopped Watching the News: I don’t usually watch the news for a number of reasons—mostly because it pulls me down. And I don’t just mean it makes me sad or depressed.…
Read MoreThe Rock, steroids, Ozempic and lessons learned from quick fixes
Steriods, The Rock, and Why Shortcuts Always Come Back to Bite You I was 19, sitting on my girlfriend’s bed, when my nose suddenly started bleeding like crazy. It had never happened before, but I knew exactly why. I had been taking steroids. At the time, I was working at a gym. I was in…
Read More3rd grade a handful of pepper and clenched fists
What fighting in the 3rd grade taught me about real power I was in third grade coming home from Cub Scouts when Mike called me the n-word for the thousandth time. This was common since I’d moved to New Jersey from Barbados. I had a thick Caribbean accent and come from a…
Read MoreIs President Trump gone a happy thought
Is President Trump gone a happy thought? Is President Trump gone a happy thought? Last week I posted on social media: “What’s the happiest thought you can think of?” I got some wonderful replies. But one stood out from a childhood friend: “That Trump was gone!” (He said it a…
Read MoreColdplay CEO Acting Normal
Cold play CEO acting normal I wrote a blog recently about a couple who were caught having an extramarital affair on a kissing camera at a Coldplay concert. The CEO and his coworker turned quickly when the camera was on them at the concert and a lot of people shared it was their…
Read MoreTake a step
Take a step One question I ask my coaching clients is: What was your earliest memory? It’s an important question. My earliest memory was waiting on a step for my mom in Barbados. My Mom sent myself and my sister there when my parents broke up and she didn’t…
Read MoreDo what you love for work
Do what you love for work I have a confession to make. I’ve never been able to keep a job I didn’t love. It’s hard for me to do much if my heart isn’t into it. Whether that be friendships, relationships, work, or even spiritual pursuits. I am not able to do…
Read MoreHow to do the hard things
How to do the hard things Are you having trouble getting yourself to do hard things like exercise? That’s normal, but you need to do it, and I hope this story will help. He was 90 years old when his family hired me to help him. He was having pain in his legs and some…
Read MoreColdplay CEO affair
Coldplay CEO affair I just came back from Africa, and it was a trip that changed my perspective. I think that’s the gift when you travel because you come back to your life with new eyes. What really unsettled me was how quickly I fell back into life here. It’s so easy to listen to…
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