He Missed His Chance to be His Son's Hero   He came to see me because he had gotten into trouble, and his parents had heard that I coach and connect well with young people.  …

The Trap of Over Giving in Relationships When I was younger, I thought no woman would ever leave me.   I mean… why would they?   I'd grocery shop, cook, clean, provide-be the perfect boyfriend, the…

What Divorce Taught Me About Letting Go A lot of people know how to begin things… but do they know how to end them?   When we start a career or a new relationship, we're filled…

What Love Makes Possible Last week I wrote about two women I know.   I didn't choose them because they're "nice."   I chose them because they are two of the finest women I know.  …

The Courage To Feel She was 11 years old. It was summer, and she woke up late.   She came downstairs looking for her friends, but her mom told her they had already come by.  …

The Affair That Wasn't About Love He was one of the wealthiest clients I ever worked with… and I found out he was having an affair.   His health was a mess.   Somewhere along the…

Why Modern Relationships Feel Broken (And Why They're Not) I'm noticing something about relationships today.   Men and women-and even boys and girls-are interacting differently than they used to.   Some people call it hookup culture.…

It Wasn't Love....It Was Familiar "I miss John, I know there were problems… but we had some really good times." That's what my client told me a few months after ending a relationship. When we first…

Where Have Our Feelings Gone? When was the last time you cried? I curiously asked my client. He paused, he couldn't remember the last time. I can't really help someone unless they're able to open up.…

Keep the Lights On This is my dad.   He was a cool guy-and I'm going to brag on him for a minute.   He was a jazz musician, entrepreneur, handyman, convenience store owner, military man,…