Infidelity
“What a Good Father Leaves Behind”
“What a Good Father Leaves Behind” My father left when I was about three years old, but another father stepped in. He’s in the photo above. The other photo below is of me and my children Maya (19) and Zach (15). Thank you, Dad, for showing me strength, commitment, and what it…
Read MoreI Thought I was Dumb
I Thought I was Dumb When I was younger, I struggled in school. I failed fifth grade, and man, was that embarrassing. I barely graduated high school. And there were reasons for all of it. Lack of stability, support, neglect, and abuse were all things I faced as a child. …
Read MoreOne Person Can Change Everything
One Person Can Change Everything Do you ever feel discouraged by what you see around you? Do you sometimes lose hope… wondering if people have lost their way, and not knowing what to do about it? I want to share something with you that really stayed with me. And I’m not going…
Read MoreThe Power of Space
The Power of Space My son forgot his computer this morning. He called and asked if I could bring it to him. So, I got in the car and headed to his school. On the way there, I had a thought I didn’t used to have. I created a life…
Read MoreHealthy Love Feels Strange to Unhealed People
Healthy Love Feels Strange To Unhealed People I was watching an interview with a celebrity who had left her marriage. She talked about dating a “nice guy” afterward but said it didn’t work out because that’s not what she needed. She said she needed chaos, and that’s why she was attracted to the…
Read MoreHe Missed His Chance to be His Son’s Hero
He Missed His Chance to be His Son’s Hero He came to see me because he had gotten into trouble, and his parents had heard that I coach and connect well with young people. Unfortunately, I can’t help everyone. It was hard to reach him. He wouldn’t open his heart. …
Read MoreThe Trap of Over giving in Relationships
The Trap of Over Giving in Relationships When I was younger, I thought no woman would ever leave me. I mean… why would they? I’d grocery shop, cook, clean, provide—be the perfect boyfriend, the perfect husband. Sounds great, right? Wrong. It’s great… if you’re the other person. But that’s…
Read MoreWhat Divorce Taught Me About Letting Go
What Divorce Taught Me About Letting Go A lot of people know how to begin things… but do they know how to end them? When we start a career or a new relationship, we’re filled with enthusiasm and excitement. .There’s hope. There’s energy. There’s possibility. But how often do we consider the ending?…
Read MoreWhat Love Makes Possible
What Love Makes Possible Last week I wrote about two women I know. I didn’t choose them because they’re “nice.” I chose them because they are two of the finest women I know. The first—you’ll almost never hear her talk about herself. She’s deeply concerned for others… in a way I…
Read MoreThe Courage To Feel
The Courage To Feel She was 11 years old. It was summer, and she woke up late. She came downstairs looking for her friends, but her mom told her they had already come by. She didn’t want to wake her. So, she went out back and sat on an old sofa in…
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