Marriage, Relationships, and your Health

Relationships, Marriage, and your Health  I was driving with a young man I’m coaching the other day—he’s working hard to prepare himself for a healthy relationship.   He’s responsible, he’s been through a lot, and he genuinely wants to build a good life with someone.   He told me he’d started reading the relationship book…

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When making a profit doesn’t profit

When making a profit doesn’t profit What Does It Profit a Man? “What does it profit a man to gain the whole world and lose his soul?” Matthew 16:26   This lesson from the Bible has always struck me deeply, though I never fully understood why—until recently. I was out for a run today, reflecting…

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Why doing nothing is something

Why doing nothing is something A friend of mine, a very successful businessman, once shared a story with me.   It was a story his father had told him, and it became the way he ran his business.   Not long ago, he caught a major error his company was about to make.   When…

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Why trust matters in hard times

“Daddy, no-I can’t look, it’s just too awlful!”     “Daddy, no—I can’t look. I can’t look, Daddy,” my daughter sobbed.   “Maya, you have to look,” I said.   She was only four or five at the time. We were on top of a bunk bed watching a mini DVD player (no streaming back…

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Where are the helpers? Phillies “Karen” and Charlie Kirt

Finding “the helpers” Phillies “Karen” and Charlie Kurt examples   Finding the Helpers in a World That Feels Broken   Why I Stopped Watching the News:   I don’t usually watch the news for a number of reasons—mostly because it pulls me down.   And I don’t just mean it makes me sad or depressed.…

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3rd grade a handful of pepper and clenched fists

What fighting in the 3rd grade taught me about real power   I was in third grade coming home from Cub Scouts when Mike called me the n-word for the thousandth time.   This was common since I’d moved to New Jersey from Barbados.   I had a thick Caribbean accent and come from a…

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Do what you love for work

Do what you love for work   I have a confession to make.   I’ve never been able to keep a job I didn’t love.   It’s hard for me to do much if my heart isn’t into it.   Whether that be friendships, relationships, work, or even spiritual pursuits.  I am not able to do…

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How to do the hard things

How to do the hard things Are you having trouble getting yourself to do hard things like exercise? That’s normal, but you need to do it, and I hope this story will help. He was 90 years old when his family hired me to help him. He was having pain in his legs and some…

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